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Duality| Erasmus Cromwell smith


Here is the problem with Duality:

At first sight appears to be something it isn’t,

like a state of deliberate indecisiveness,

even ignorant or willful duplicity,

amongst choices.

Duality is quite the contrary of what it appears to be,

at least as far as this verse goes..

In life we stumble into duality when, 

either we crave,

not one, but the totality of choices ahead of us,

or we see everything, everyone

as a two-sided proposition of “either or.”

Not enough has been said about the first kind of duality,

consisting of the capricious art

of wanting it both ways in life;

when we want it all simultaneously, at any cost;

no matter how, what, where, who, when or why.

This usually leaves no room for anything or anyone else;

this voraciousness, is in itself a problem,

not only because we seldom enjoy either one,

but also, because in addition,


is nothing but a pernicious existential waste of time,

a pointless, fruitless exercise in instant gratification,

which is not only banal, empty and not everlasting

but above all,

devoid of any meaning and purpose,

hence not transcendental,

meaning that,

we are not “living” nor “alive”

when we practice it.

On the other hand,

when duality is polarizing,

we see the universe, the world, life and its people,

through opposing extremes

with everything in between,

the antagonizing sides 

as irreconcilable differences

all of the time.

Everything around us becomes,

black or white,

good or evil,

exhilarating or angsty,

fulfilling or empty,

happy or depressive,

crowded or lonely,

entertaining or boring,

truthful or false,

faithful or treasonous,

real or fake.

Everyone we interact with,


either superior or lesser, affluent or deprived,

healthy or unwell, successful or a failure,

entitled or a parasite, solvent or a social ballast,

with or against us, able or handicapped,

free or condemned, innocent or scarlet-letter bearers,

low in self-esteem or narcissistic,

socially adequate or psychopaths.

Our emotional and rational lives are either,

controlled or chaotic, effusive or filled with resentment,

exuberant or frustrated, on a high or on a low,

abstinent or tainted, carnivorous or vegan,

nice or nasty, generous or greedy and selfish.

The shining light of lasting beauty in life,

lies not on opposite sides,

but right down the middle.

A wholesome life is driven by virtues,

residing strictly, solely between extremes;

They are located in the area of confluence,

where we ponder and tinker,

with all our existential levers.

Instead of a world of pairs and duos,

or either “a” or “b” choices,

we find a third alternative,

made entirely out of both extremes.

That’s where and how,

life can be brought into balance,

and why,

it is in the middle where most,

if not all our existential virtues can be found;


temperance, uniqueness, out of the norm, prudence,

good judgment, patience, endurance, tolerance,

forgiveness, a good heart, creativity, artistry,

open mindedness, clarity, cautiousness,

meditative and contemplative states,

repentance, generosity, gratitude,

moderation, hope, inspiration,

frugality, faith, change,

evolution, our conscience, our spirit

and our soul.

The extremes of Duality

are incomplete and unfulfilling,

as they deprive us

of all the available choices,

sending us to the edges

of utterly rigid positions.

Duality can be dangerous

casting opposite or extreme sides

against each other,

creating potential or real conflicts

and clashes between the participants,

based on the simple, minimum desire,

of one side prevailing over the other

at any and all costs.

Duality also creates blindness 

in our hearts, spirits and souls,

depriving us of the ability to experience life,

enjoy the universe, the world, nature and others,

while being the best we can be,

simply because we ignore the third choice,

that of contemplating life half-way through extremes,

right down the middle.

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