One way or another,
we all chase,
some of us relentlessly,
wealth, fame and love,
in this exact order of importance.
These life illusions
don’t always present themselves
in such a prescribed pecking order.
Fact is, we never know
who shows up first,
or if any of them
will ever make itself present,
But if they do,
we’ll face one of
life’s most puzzling conundrums,
that is, what are we keenly after,
is not only elusive,
but usually comes
at the expense of something else.
Correspondingly, more often than not,
when we are graced with riches and a good name,
it comes at the expense of love,
or if we become wealthy,
it is at the expense of the other two,
or a good reputation comes without love or riches,
or love blesses us without riches or even a good name.
What is not so apparent though,
is that this triad of grand illusions,
which we covet so much, comes at the expense of others,
even more important virtues,
some existential in nature, others, crucial life attitudes,
than our three grand illusory obsessions.
As we chase wealth,
we sacrifice frugality,
and run the risk of losing
our ability to appreciate
the true value of people or material things,
or perhaps even worse
we become unable
to value the simplest of things,
especially those that
are nominally scarce in quantifiable degrees.
As as we go after reputation,
we run the risk that,
nothing about us is nameless any longer,
and the fiction of what others think about us,
morphs into an obsession and becomes more important
than the reality of who we really are.
Falsely, anonymity then becomes
a synonym for failure or lack of accomplishment,
and everything we do or we work for,
becomes attached to our name and ego.
But the biggest risk we face with fame
is that everything we do in life,
for others or ourselves,
becomes somewhat and somehow,
driven and conditioned,
by what others think, how they react,
and how they behave.
Thus, we lose part or all of our sense of identity,
as the purest of all acts in life,
the acts of conscience,
where we are only accountable to ourselves,
totally escape us.
But the most difficult
of our life’s grand illusions to go after is love
as by doing so,
we run the risk of sacrificing freedom.
Love is a compromise between two souls,
where each one “gives” a part of themselves,
and a couple is born.
But a twosome is a separate unit
from the two individuals,
and the balance between
the individuality of each one versus the couple,
even though attainable,
is very difficult to achieve,
and even more so to maintain.
The problem lies in,
that self-determination and liberty
are not that compatible with love.
It takes a lot of maturity, tolerance and compromise
for both to coexist.
It is in true love
where the boundaries within a couple blend best.
when freedom, instead of being an obstacle,
is actually the bond,
that unites authentic love.
Strings and ties,
are not driven by walls
of insecurity and possession,
but by the natural, spontaneous
and comfortable yearning,
for our other half,
and the certainties of immanent belonging
to someone else’s heart.
Are we then, just chasing,
these three grand illusions in life?
Is that all we are capable to do?
Are they only a mirage?
Do we sacrifice frugality and austerity
when we go after riches and wealth?
Do we lose anonymity and our own identity
when we are after reputation and a good name?
And, do we lose freedom and self-determination
when we join in love?
Before chasing wealth,
perhaps we should learn to be frugal and austere first
so we learn the true value of things,
and how precious is each fellow human being?
And we should learn first how to be
humbly anonymous and modestly nameless,
and do things for ourselves,
based on our conscience alone,
before chasing reputation and a good name,
which are always based
on what other’s think of us,
instead of on what we really think about ourselves.
And we could learn about freedom
and self-determination first,
hopefully before true love finds us,
hooking us up with someone else,
so we will be capable of balancing,
the emerging couple
with our individuality and sense of being.
Life is a mirage of three grand illusions,
wealth, fame and love,
that require a fine balance between them,
as not to hurt some,
at the expense of a triad of others,
namely frugality, anonymity, and freedom
as we require them as well,
for a wholesome, well balanced and happy life.